It took me a long time to get "into" this book. The first third felt like it wandered too much and was not as focused as I had wished.

But I found it a very powerful read. It is the story of a child born of Korean parents who gave birth to her in the U.S. and gave her up for adoption. Her birth parents already had two other daughters and worked long hours. As we learn later, the birth mother probably had mental health issues.

The author was raised in a smaller town in NW Oregon, where she was the only Asian-looking child. She felt out of place and was taunted. I great up a generation earlier and for elementary school I was the only Jewish child in any of my classes. I felt out of place and was relieved when we moved and I entered junior high school and found at least 5-7 Jewish children in my classes. It was a relief to not always explain myself. However, I did not suffer the taunts that Nicole did. Her parents were very loving but they had no idea that their daughter was harassed.

Yes, she had much more of a loving family and childhood than what she would have had with her birth family, but the book clearly showed her angst at being physically different.

The book is about her coming to terms with her background and connecting with a biological sister who is now one of her best friends.

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