How to Stop Hating Yourself

Book - 2014
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"Anneli Rufus has an incredible insight into the human condition. Through observation and anecdote, she shows us that no matter what was said or done to us, self-loathing does not have to be our fate. Hers is a strong, sympathetic and encouraging voice. " --Henry Rollins

"This book should be required reading for anyone suffering from low self-esteem, and while it will likely cause readers to tear up repeatedly, the empathy and grounded advice is sure to help inspire healing." --Publishers Weekly

"Self-loathing is a dark land studded with booby-traps. Fumbling through its dark underbrush, we cannot see what our trouble actually is: that we are mistaken about ourselves. That we were told lies long ago which we, in love and loyalty and fear, believed. Will we believe ourselves to death?" --from Unworthy . As someone who has struggled with low self-esteem her entire life, Anneli Rufus knows only too well how the world looks through the eyes of those who are not comfortable in their own skin. In Unworthy , Rufus boldly explores how a lack of faith in ourselves can turn us into our own worst enemies.

Drawing on extensive research, enlightening interviews, and her own poignant experiences, Rufus considers the question: What personal, societal, biological, and historical factors coalesced to spark this secret epidemic, and what can be done to put a stop to it? She reveals the underlying sources of low self-esteem and leads us through strategies for positive change.

Publisher: New York : Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, [2014]
ISBN: 9780399164217
Characteristics: 273 pages ; 22 cm


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Mar 08, 2016

Ever have a therapist suggest positive affirmations--that left you crushed and bleeding? This book tells you why. Cannot figure out why everyone in the world thinks your mom is the greatest woman ever--but she shreds your self-esteem? This book explains it. Spend a lot of time going over every mistake you ever made and beating yourself up? This book tells you how to stop. Wonderful, a very sad kind of funny, a self-help book that actually helps.

Jan 06, 2015

It's as if the author is my long-lost sister? My "real" self??


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